When you lack self-confidence you will often look for approval and validation from outside of you. This may be in the form of dressing a certain manner in order to feel accepted – even though you may not feel comfortable in the clothes you are wearing…

Seeking approval could also come in performing your job to your absolute maximum ability – trying to impress your boss – but in so doing, your personal life is affected negatively…

If you are always seeking approval from outside, you can – and never will – feel totally self-confident…

There are people at the other end of the scale who overtly PRETEND to have self-confidence – and to others on the surface t-hey appear to be very self-confident as they MOVE AND SHAKE their way through life…

TRUE CONFIDENCE is something different to this superficial acting, because acting in this manner requires a lot of energy and at some point these people will feel the very opposite of their public show…

And quite often a number of these types of people are actually suffering from a form of depression caused by a lack of true self worth…

One thing that we all need to understand is that anything that is not in balance – has within it – the equal and opposite reaction…

So true self-confidence comes from feeling good about yourself and your abilities but without having to show that world HOW GOOD YOU ARE. You just simply KNOW it yourself, and that’s all that matters…

Okay, so how can you achieve this state of feeling good without the excessive show of ego?

The most powerful thing that you can do to develop your self-confidence is to IDENTIFY AND PERFORM YOUR OWN UNIQUE ROLE IN THE WORLD…

What I mean by this is – that inside everyone of us – is a unique role that we were born to live…

You are currently walking a path through life that has never been trodden before, nor will it ever be trodden again!

That makes you kinda special already doesn’t it? It actually makes EVERYONE special!

So how can you find this unique purpose if you are not already living it?

Step One

The first thing you must do is get quiet on a regular basis and become very well acquainted with that quiet voice inside of you that is your true intuition…

The reason you need to become very well acquainted with your intuition is because there are things that you would really like to experience in your life – and your main mission in life – is to fulfill those desires without harming anyone else in the process…

Step Two

Another powerful thing you can do to develop self-confidence is to recognize that each individual is just like you – we are all doing the best we can with what we know – and we are also living our unique roles to the best of our ability…

Step Three

A third and extremely powerful way to develop self-confidence – is to acknowledge and compliment other people sincerely…

If you like what someone is wearing say so. If you like they way someone relates to their family, say so…

Compliment people at every opportunity and when you do, make sure that the compliment is genuine and not just superficial flattery…

I can’t go into all the scientific detail of why this works in a short blog post like this however…

As you get into the habit of genuinely complimenting other people and other things – such as a nice car – your subconscious mind – which is connected to everything in the world energetically – will begin to feel as if it is being complimented on a regular basis – and it will begin to feel good and you will begin to feel more self-confident…

So there you have it, three simple to techniques for developing you self-confidence…

First, discover your unique role in the world by scheduling some quiet time on a regular basis…

Second, recognize and acknowledge that every person has a unique path in life…

And thirdly, get into the habit of genuinely complimenting other people, animals, plants and the objects around you…

By incorporating these things into your life – you will, over time, develop unshakeable self-confidence and you will move through the world with grace and ease…

Wishing you health, happiness and success…

Rohan James

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